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Fear

Oak & Fort jacket; 3

Dress: Aritzia (similar here and here); Jacket: Oak & Fort (similar here and here); Shoes: Vagabond (similar here and here)

Fears are a part of life, we all have them, but I think the most dangerous fear of all is the fear of failure. I say that because it’s more often than not, it is the fear of failure that holds us back from accepting challenges. I’m not someone who likes losing, in fact, I like to think of Monica Gellar as my spirit animal because of how totally not chill I am when I lose.

One of the biggest mistakes I made due to my fear of failing was not starting my blog sooner. I’d wanted to start a blog ever since my second year of college, but didn’t until much later because I was too scared of peoples’ perception of me. Looking back at it, I realize what a stupid decision that was, because if I’d followed my gut and started my blog sooner, I’d be so much farther along my career by now! As I’ve grown older, I’ve made it a point to face my fear of failure head on and rise to face challenges.

It wasn’t until a few days ago that I realized that I had been shying away from doing the smallest thing for fear of failing – starting a Facebook page for my blog. So stupid, right? I knew it was something I should be doing, but had been putting it off thinking I wouldn’t be able to keep up with it and worrying about people not liking it. So two days ago, I made the decision of tackling the problem head on and launching a page.

While this issue is so tiny when I think of the bigger picture, it’s an example of dealing with the suffocating fear of failure. No matter how big or small your challenge, I hope that you guys can also rise up to it without fear.

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64 Comments

  1. jasna
    August 24, 2016 / 9:43 am

    Your posts and outfits are always inspiring and I am glad you started blogging 🙂 Fear is crazy it can control us in a positive or a negative way, but the moment you realise that WE are the only ones that put fear into our minds, not others, then we realise that WE are the only ones who can choose to ignore it 🙂 xx

  2. Meron Dymphana
    August 24, 2016 / 11:15 am

    Fear holds us back from being great and achieving big things. The fear of failure is the worst because we all have it but sometimes we need to ignore it and trust in the process. You look so chi Siffat!
    http://www.fashionstylemogul.com

  3. The Fashion Folks
    August 24, 2016 / 12:09 pm

    I knew years before starting The Fashion Folks that I wanted to do a fashion site, but it took me so long to just get started and now I’m also somewhat annoyed that I could be 3-4 years ahead! But we’ll get there eventually! Xx

    http://www.thefashionfolks.com

  4. Didier
    August 24, 2016 / 1:18 pm

    I hear ya sista! And yay for the Facebook page! Now we both have the contact button on our instagrams! ha

  6. Joelle
    August 24, 2016 / 2:17 pm

    LOVE this post Siffat, and much needed words of wisdom for me – fear has held me back from a major goal of mine, and it’s so silly! I love this outfit as well, as always! xo

    Joelle
    http://www.lapetitenoob.com

  9. Raysa Garcia
    August 25, 2016 / 12:24 am

    Love your coat and bag babe!
    Kisses, Raysa

  10. Kandja Sylla
    August 25, 2016 / 12:40 am

    I truly appreciate that you shared your fears. I’m still glad though that you started blogging. For me, acknowledging your fears is already a huge step. You look fab btw. Thanks for sharing babe. xx

    http://www.prettyweirdbombshell.com

  12. Filipa Jackson
    August 25, 2016 / 1:49 am

    I feel exactly the same way. I WISH I started my blog back in Uni…. I was traveling more back then and my life was waaaaay more interesting haha. At least you started it… your blog and your social media outlets are amazing, your making so many people happy

    Filipa xxx
    PlayingWithApparel.com | Instagram

  15. Andrea Tiffany
    August 25, 2016 / 4:48 am

    The things you say are always so relatable and true. For me, it’s also the fear of failure that holds me back not fear of actually doing something. Probably because I have this vision in mind of what I hope for it to be, and I fear that it won’t come true. But that won’t ever help solve anything.
    On another note, I really like your outfit! The dress and coat combo looks really good

    ~Andrea Tiffany~
    aglimpseofglam.blogspot.com

  16. Esther
    August 25, 2016 / 10:17 am

    You look beautiful and this outfit is stunning! First I was also afraid of what people might think about me because of blogging, but I’m so happy that I decided to start it. Doing things out of your comfort zone is always a little scary, but it’s worth taking a risk 🙂 Have a wonderful day!

    xo, Esther

    http://bubblesther.com

  17. Esther
    August 25, 2016 / 10:17 am

    You look beautiful and this outfit is stunning! First I was also afraid of what people might think about me because of blogging, but I’m so happy that I decided to start it. Doing things out of your comfort zone is always a little scary, but it’s worth taking a risk 🙂 Have a wonderful day!

    xo, Esther

    http://bubblesther.com

  18. Airish
    August 25, 2016 / 10:26 am

    Totally love this color combination, it looks really classy! You look lovely as always. 🙂 Hope to hear from you soon! x

    Love, Airish
    Gorgeous Glance
    http://www.airishabella.blogspot.com

  20. kavya
    August 25, 2016 / 2:12 pm

    Your posts are so inspiring, Siffat! I can totally relate to them. Fear of failure stops us from doing the things that can move us forward and achieve our goals. I’m so glad you got past your fears and launched your page! <3
    Loving this look on you. You look so chic and sophisticated! <3

  21. Laura
    August 25, 2016 / 2:37 pm

    Love your blog, your style is so fresh and I got so much inspirations from your posts, I really love it!
    Would you like to follow each other? Follow me on Blog and Google+ and I’ll follow you back!
    Love, Laura xx
    http://gowestyoungcowgirl.blogspot.com

  23. Ela
    August 25, 2016 / 3:06 pm

    We get scared of the little things, taking a little step towards the fear would change everything! I was the same with starting my blog, I wanted it for so long, however I wasn’t sure how it would be or if people would even read it. I wish I had started it earlier… but then better late than never! x

    Ela BellaWorld

  24. Irene
    August 25, 2016 / 3:59 pm

    This is so inspiring! I love the post:)

    irenethayer.com

  25. Melis
    August 25, 2016 / 4:17 pm

    you know i totally feel you on this, and i love you always talk about such important subjects, you’re so inspiring babe!! but we can’t live with regrets, and all we can really do is to make sure we don’t wait so long next time, glad you started the FB page!! and as always, i adore this look, perfect fall colors, that trench is the coolest!

    xx Melis
    http://fashionmews.com

  27. Jen
    August 25, 2016 / 6:25 pm

    Your coat it’s EVERYTHING! love your style <3

  30. Lora
    August 25, 2016 / 9:48 pm

    You just got one more like from me! Honestly, fear stops us from doing some very stupid things, so I think we should appreciate our human nature along with all its flaws. Your outfit is gorg by the way!

    Xx, Lora | http://www.cherrycolastyle.com

  31. Kelsey&Kenecha
    August 26, 2016 / 12:06 am

    So beautiful, I love your coat!

    Florals&Smiles

  32. Edye
    August 26, 2016 / 3:18 am

    So glad you took a step out and made a FB page. Trying new things can be scary, but it grows us SO much 🙂 Have a great weekend <3

    Blessings,
    Edye | http://gracefulcoffee.wordpress.com

  33. Chelsea
    August 26, 2016 / 3:25 am

    A friend once told me that we have to chase our dreams, not our fear, and that always stuck with me as being very motivating!

    Chelsea
    Chow Down USA
    Instagram

  34. Kelly K
    August 26, 2016 / 12:21 pm

    You and I had the same fear! I wish I had started mine 3-4 years ago when I was first considering it! But I definitely was scared of putting myself out there and not seeing success. So glad we both decided to dive in!

    http://www.rosyoutlookblog.com

  35. Kate
    August 26, 2016 / 12:53 pm

    Such a good post + great, relatable thoughts! You are so genuine, Siffat!
    And I’m obsessed with that camel color of the jacket and the contrast of the black and gold. So dynamic.
    -Kate // http://www.classyandkate.com

  36. Amy Arnold
    August 26, 2016 / 1:20 pm

    You go for it girl! Love the black and tan combo.

    Amy Ann
    Straight A Style

  38. Julia (The Velvet Runway)
    August 26, 2016 / 3:02 pm

    Great post! I totally agree that the fear of failure is so dangerous – and so hard to overcome. I think it has stopped me doing so many things. Your posts always motivate and inspire me!
    I also love this trench!!
    Julia x
    http://www.thevelvetrunway.com/

  41. Anouk
    August 26, 2016 / 4:46 pm

    Love the way the coat and the bag match! Top look!

    LUXESSED

  44. Missy May
    August 26, 2016 / 8:25 pm

    Fear is a mudda for sure!! The things fear has held me back from pursuing are uncountable, but not anymore. The God I serve is bigger than fear. You look simply gorg, Siffat. 🙂

    http://missymayification.blogspot.co.uk

  45. Carina
    August 26, 2016 / 8:53 pm

    I also put off starting a blog and then a YouTube out of fear, but better late than never. You look gorgeous and I like the Friends reference.

    xo
    http://www.carinavardie.com

  46. samira radmehr
    August 26, 2016 / 10:17 pm

    I love this post! I totally understand how you feel/felt. I wanted to start my blog when I graduated college, but it took me two years after to really have the guts to start it! Now looking back, I wish I had just done it and not cared about other peoples perception. I also need to get on my Facebook page as well, thanks for reminding me!

    Have a fab weekend girl!

    Xo, Samira
    http://www.leathertolunch.com

  47. Yasmin
    August 26, 2016 / 11:48 pm

    Girl you and me both. One little thing can snowball into a greater feeling of hopelessness or anxiety. Fear keeps us from living our best lives. Glad you started your FB page! One step closer to your success 🙂

    xx Yasmin
    http://banglesandbungalows.com

  48. Kasie Chelanne
    August 27, 2016 / 1:41 am

    It really is so important to go after those blogging milestones develop as much ambivalence to outside perception as you can. Easier said than done of course, but it definitely serves all of us well in life when we can become so solely focused on our goals that the naysayers just disappear from view.

  49. Gemma
    August 27, 2016 / 7:41 am

    Great outfit and uplifting words, I was the same as you with the blog, I wish I would have started years ago but it was the fear that held me back. Gemma x
    http://www.jacquardflower.uk

  53. Izabela
    August 27, 2016 / 3:53 pm

    I can totally relate to how you feel about the fear of failure. This is such a gorgeous look. I love the black and tan combo.

    http://www.mydailywear.co.uk

  54. Face to Curls
    August 27, 2016 / 5:02 pm

    Very inspiring post! Fear can really paralyze us and prevent us from doing and being so much. We just have to be strong and try our hardest to get past it and get over it. I was the same with my blog and FB page and all social media for that matter. I love that trench! x

    Ann-Marie | http://facetocurls.com

  55. Candace
    August 27, 2016 / 6:38 pm

    I was the opposite of you. I started my blog way early, but only started taking it more seriously about a year ago. I lost so much time! Glad you’ve found your happy place now. Love this look too!

    http://www.thebeautybeau.com

  56. Yulia Ivanova
    August 28, 2016 / 12:05 am

    I totally agree with you; fear of failure is the worst. Sometimes it just stops us from being who we are and makes us take the wrong road. Anyway, you look beautiful as always and I am in love with this simple, yet stylish outfit! Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and have a great Sunday:)

    Yuliannova

  63. Stella Asteria
    August 30, 2016 / 2:08 pm

    First of all, I love this sleek minimal look! It’s perfection! As for the for, I am totally getting you (still don’t have a fb page too, thinking the same as you did). You really inspired me to go ahead and create mine! I will send you an invite! Thank you so much Siffat!
    PS: 1 like from me 🙂

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