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5 Ways To Be More Fearless

5 Ways To Be More Fearless

Dress: Aritzia (similar here and here); Kimono: Zara (similar here and here); Bag: J.W. Anderson; Shoes: Gucci

Fear and self-doubt are two things that most people deal with throughout their lives. No one is born with the ability to feel confident all the time. Over the years, I’ve come to realize the importance of fearlessness. I don’t think fearlessness is synonymous to confidence, rather, I think it’s the path to achieving confidence. Fearlessness, to me, is being aware of the risks and chance of failure associated with a decision, but choosing to make it anyway. It’s a quality that I work actively to cultivate in both, my personal life and business every single day. So today, I wanted to share with you guys my 5 best tips for becoming more fearless:

Set goals
Never be afraid of setting big goals for yourself. Hard work, grit, and belief in oneself can allow you to achieve anything you want.

Take risks
Fearlessness goes hand-in-hand with being able to step outside your comfort zone. So many times in my life, I’ve hesitated or put off pursuing something because I was afraid of failing. After graduating from university, I remember being scared of applying for jobs that I didn’t think I was qualified enough for. Then I was too scared to launch my blog out of fear of why people would say. And at the beginning stages of my blog, I was afraid to reach out to PR agencies out of fear of being told no. Over time, I realized that I would never get anywhere unless I broke free from the shackles of fear. I became comfortable with the idea of being told no, and life has been much easier since. At least now if I fail at something, or am told no, I know that I tried!

The ability to take risks extends beyond work as well. Put yourself in situations you’re not necessarily the most comfortable in, you’ll be surprised at what you’ll find. This could mean anything from going to an event where you don’t know anyone, or traveling alone. Taking risks is what allows you to grow as a person.

Surround yourself with positive people
So much of who we are is impacted by who we surround ourselves with. I’ve said it over and over again, but if your friends are positive, go-getters, then their attitude will automatically bring out the best in you. Your friends are also the ones who encourage you to pursue your dreams and give you the encouragement you need when you’re unsure about something.

Don’t compare your hustle to someone else’s highlight reel
I heard this on Sophia Amoruso’s Girlboss podcast, and it really resonated with me. What we see on social media is the best, shiniest, most curated part of peoples’ lives. Comparing your life to someone else’s won’t get you anywhere. Instead, focus on achieving your goals and celebrating your triumphs.

Learn to say no
I think most people have an innate need to please others. This can lead to us agreeing to do something we may not want to. Learning to say no is so simple, but so powerful. Before you agree to something, whether it be a social commitment or an extra work commitment, ask yourself ‘does this bring me joy?’ If the answer is no, then don’t agree to it just to please someone else.

Photography by Erin Leydon

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  2. Courtney
    August 16, 2017 / 4:41 pm

    Beautiful photos and inspiring post! Personally, I need to work on taking risks!

    Kim
    Simply Lovebirds

  4. LENA
    August 16, 2017 / 5:42 pm

    Great Tips! I agree, surround yourself with positive people! So true.

    -Lena
    L.E.N.A | Revealed

  6. The Fashion Folks
    August 16, 2017 / 6:53 pm

    Agree with all of these, definitely needed this dose of inspo today! So true that we shouldn’t compare either, it won’t do any good if it’s not to be inspired. And heeyy, love your kimono, it’s a gem!! Xx

    http://www.thefashionfolks.com

  8. Britta
    August 16, 2017 / 7:27 pm

    Very good advice! We have to remember not to compare ourselves to others in a negative way!
    Love this look also! Your style is so gorgeous and clean!

  9. Areli
    August 16, 2017 / 7:34 pm

    It’s super important to surround yourself with positive and goal setting people, it keeps you motivated to keep going and not give into fear!! Love this post
    xx,
    Areli’s April // Bloglovin

  12. Jessi Malay
    August 16, 2017 / 8:30 pm

    You look gorgeous in these pics girl! And great tips, especially the one about saying no. We need to be selfish sometimes and choose to prioritize our own happiness 🙂

  13. Filipa
    August 17, 2017 / 1:03 am

    I am taking all of those points into consideration. Also girl you are looking all kinds of fly

    Filipa xxx
    PlayingWithApparel.com | Instagram

  14. Raysa García
    August 17, 2017 / 4:08 am

    I really love this post. You are so beautiful and inspiring.
    Stunning photos as always babe. Xx

  16. Imogen
    August 17, 2017 / 9:31 am

    Such a wonderful, honest post! I totally get why people can get scared when they’re constantly comparing- I guess it’s just about setting yourself apart from everyone else and focussed on loving yourself and all your little quirks.

    Much love,
    Imogen, http://www.faux-silk.com

  17. Agatha
    August 17, 2017 / 11:00 am

    First of all, it is the courage to follow your tips! Great advice! I should remember more often to say no and to take the risks!

  18. Biki
    August 17, 2017 / 4:04 pm

    Hey Siffat, I’ve been away from the blogosphere for a bit and I’m back for a wee bit and catching up on my reading. Good tips here- the one about saying No especially, I believe this is something we find easier to say as we get older. I think when one works in a creative job like styling, photography- industries were people can be very fluid and its ‘easier’ to say you are one- there is a higher chance of companies taking the piss and making you work for free. In these instances, it’s really best to say no and not be afraid of offers drying up. This is mos def something I wish I’d known in my 20s.
    Loving the kimono and slippers. ( :

  19. Jessica
    August 17, 2017 / 4:32 pm

    Firstly the photographs and you look amazing. Secondly, this is such a great post. Every tip you gave is so so on point! Thanks for sharing 🙂

    Jessica ♥ | THEWAYTOMYHART.com

    Instagram | @THEWAYTOMYHART

  20. Rubi
    August 18, 2017 / 7:11 am

    Siffat I honestly love your posts like these, they are so positive and provide such motivation, I love the vibes!!

    Much love babe,
    Rubi
    Pose & Repeat

  22. Irina
    August 18, 2017 / 5:41 pm

    I love the post so much! Thanks for sharing:)

    irinathayer.com

  23. Meredith
    August 18, 2017 / 7:16 pm

    LOVE this post! And that long jacket is amazing!

    xoxo,
    Meredith

  29. paula
    August 20, 2017 / 1:24 am

    Such important advice! These days with social media so many people think they don’t measure up but you have to live for you – not for what you think you should be. Love this outfit too, the combination of the kimono with the backless loafers 🙂

    ♥ Paula Shoe Fiend.
    http://shoe-fiend.blogspot.co.nz/

  30. Jenelle
    August 20, 2017 / 2:33 pm

    All excellent ideas! If I am ever freaking out, I need to stop and take stock. Making a plan and and not comparing myself to where someone else is at, makes all the difference in the world! Great points hun.
    xx Jenelle
    http://www.inspiringwit.com

  31. Adi
    August 20, 2017 / 7:54 pm

    Great tips!! And I’m loving your look, so gorgeous!
    Adi xx
    fancycorrectitude.com
    instagram.com/fancycorrectitude

  33. Mia
    August 21, 2017 / 1:26 am

    You’re beautiful, babe! I totally relate to the fear of failure. I was afraid to launch my blog because I felt that it would never reach my standards (which are high considering I’m quite the perfectionist). I’ve learned to accept that things aren’t always going to fall into place exactly as you want them to and to simply embrace the learning process! Surrounding yourself with positive people who lift you up is so important! Great post <3

    Mia | http://www.verymuchmia.com

  35. Camila
    August 21, 2017 / 3:27 am

    Not comparing yourself to others is the most important one, I always try to avoid this. You look super chic in these pics!

    Camila,
    My Vogue Style | http://www.myvoguestyle.com

  40. Kris
    August 21, 2017 / 8:39 am

    I think your tips are great! I agree, you shouldn’t compare yourself to anyone else! Love the outfit as well!

    Have an awesome day!
    xx Kris

    https://dreamingofpink.wordpress.com

  41. Jessica
    August 23, 2017 / 1:54 am

    Couldnt agree more, especially on Setting Goals. As they say, if your dreams dont scare you, they are not big enough. And it’s perfectly followed with Take Risk and Surround Yourself with Positive People. I also surround myself with successful people, it inspires me to work harder. Lovely jacket by the way.

    Jessica | notjessfashion.com

  42. GOindiastore
    August 23, 2017 / 10:18 am

    Wow, I love this post. Your photos are so amazing!

  43. Julia R
    August 24, 2017 / 1:39 pm

    Your blog post really resonated with me, as I have always found it incredibly difficult to say ‘No’ (and I still do, even though I am working on it) and I am very bad at taking risks and stepping out of my comfort zone!
    On another note, I love your outfit – that dress is just gorgeous!
    Julia x
    http://www.thevelvetrunway.com/

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